Do you feel a strong need for things to go smoothly? Do you have trouble letting go when things don’t work out as you had hoped or expected? If so, you may be experiencing perfectionism.
Whether you proudly wear the badge of “perfectionist”, have a bit of anxiety around losing control, or have sky-high standards, perfectionism can hinder your daily activities and stop you from achieving your goals. Here are some suggestions for reducing perfectionism:
CARING MORE THAN OTHERS DO
As social creatures, it is normal for people to care what others think to some degree.
But if you are the kind of person who feels a small compulsion to have every lock and eyelash in place, or to fix the little ding on your car’s bumper right away, you may be too concerned about the perception of others.
A desire to look good may extend to other matters, such as making decisions based on what other people may think. You may opt for a more expensive car model or a brighter colour, in order to influence what others think.
Knowing that you may be putting more attention on these kinds of things than another person might notice could be helpful in reducing the amount of stress you feel to look as perfect as possible. The truth is, others may not even be tuned in to your efforts to look good. It’s likely that you are appreciated already for just being who you are.
All of us at some time or another in our lives may feel a sense of not measuring up. It’s helpful to see how you may treat others with more grace and acceptance than you may allow yourself to feel about you.
Allow yourself to relax, count your blessings, and smile kindly when you see your imperfections. Know that any perceived imperfection is your perception, and is not necessarily what others think.
MOVING PAST PERFECTIONISM
Have you ever set a dream aside because you have self-prescribed some rule or goal that you think you need to meet before you would be deserving of that dream becoming fulfilled?
Sometimes, perfectionism can result in putting unreasonable restrictions on your life. This can be caused by an underlying fear or nervousness related to change. Being kind to yourself is important. Allow rewards and forgive yourself quickly if something happens that you view as a mistake. You are not alone in these experiences, as we all make mistakes and sometimes feel scared about change.
To overcome the perfectionism related to change, writing down your goals may help. You can even break them down into stages or segments. Add some lines for the things you will learn along the way towards your goals.
Challenges, mistakes, or a lack of confidence are wonderful opportunities to learn and grow. Be sure to celebrate those mistakes you have learned from, or the challenges that you bravely faced down. Smile at any feeling of low confidence and know that it is a temporary experience that will pass as you become more comfortable or start to see some success.
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